There is nothing like becoming a mom to fill you with fear.
Increasingly, staying in the middle class – let alone aspiring to become middle class – is becoming a game of chance.
It’s no longer an exaggeration to say that middle-class Americans are an endangered species.
Liberation is an ever shifting horizon, a total ideology that can never fulfill its promises. It has the therapeutic quality of providing emotionally charged rituals of solidarity in hatred – it is the amphetamine of its believers.
The more we refuse to buy into our inner critics – and our external ones too – the easier it will get to have confidence in our choices, and to feel comfortable with who we are – as women and as mothers.
Not only is it harder to be a man, it is also harder to become one.
Our current obsession with creativity is the result of our continued striving for immortality in an era when most people no longer believe in an after-life.
It would be futile to attempt to fit women into a masculine pattern of attitudes, skills and abilities and disastrous to force them to suppress their specifically female characteristics and abilities by keeping up the pretense that there are no differences between the sexes.
But, in fact, there is nothing that can bring you closer to fearlessness about everything else in the world than being a parent – because everyday fears – like not being approved of – pale by comparison to the fears you have about your children.
The middle class is teetering on the brink of collapse just as surely as AIG was in the fall of 2009 – only this time, it’s not just one giant insurance company (and its banking counterparties) facing disaster, it’s tens of millions of hardworking Americans who played by the rules.
But you have to do what you dream of doing even while you’re afraid.
The economic game is not supposed to be rigged like some shady ring toss on a carnival midway.
I think while all mothers deal with feelings of guilt, working mothers are plagued by guilt on steroids!
Mainstream media tend to just mouth the conventional wisdom, to see everything through the filter of right and left.
We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes – understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.